My son called me almost at the end of my working day in the office to ask me what time I would pick him up at his dorm on next Thursday. He also told me that he wouldn't be able to make a girlfriend any time soon because he hadn't found any possible target to pursue. I asked him to focus on final exams to be taken next week.
After getting into my van in the parking lot, I called my son to check if he was distracted by looking for a girlfriend right before the final exams. He seemed fine. He bragged to me that many classmates were misled by his great expressions of a lot of ideas of Statistics during the discussions to consider him being excellent on the subject. However, he knew that he was only an average student in this class. Yes, he is very good at talking, which may not be necessarily bad. I told him to make a girlfriend depending on two scenarios: If he is trying to find one within frequent contacts, for example, the students he frequently interacts on campus, he must make friends proactively, then find out if the target is available, finally assess if the target likes him before the pursuit. After doing all of these, even he is rejected, it won't be an embarrassment to hurt the friendship; In another scenario, if he is desperately impressed by a girl on the street or any public places, he should make the contact as soon as possible, then express his passions as clearly as he can because he will lose the opportunity pretty quickly. He actually liked a girl at his high school and still keeps good communications with her though he never had a chance to date her. I think he manages it very well. Yes, he is a rational kid. I advised him no need to predefine on his mind the type of the girl he wants to pursue. However, just like I shared with him, I don't blame him to pursue a beautiful woman because he himself is a handsome man and an average student academically at a good college. This is my son's photo I snapped for him in last July and I put it on my desk at work. He isn't as athletic as I was at this age but he has even better potential athletic capabilities. I asked him to work out more.
Coming back home, I was asked by my parents what was going on in Chicago. They were watching CNN but couldn't understand English. The scene reminded me a Trump's rally scheduled at UIC Pavilion I had learned on my Facebook page several days ago. The protesters had Trump eventually cancelling the rally, which irritated me so much especially after noticing the parking garage where I parked my camry almost every school day when I pursued my MBA on this campus in late 90s. It's a great memory and I got a very valuable degree, which has benefited me for 17 years. The passion I have in the city of Chicago is dominantly because of UIC. It's why I always label myself a UIC alumni everybody can see on the road.
This one was probably snapped in June, 1999 in the center of the campus.
This one was at the commencement
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